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On Tanya’s threats to report to the police, the father said that he would kill her and her younger brother

On Tanya’s threats to report to the police, the father said that he would kill her and her younger brother

In fact, the tutor system helps to get away from the method of coercion that is familiar to the mass school and invites the student to take an author’s position in relation to his own life.

We can say that following the results of the first years of the tutoring program in the “Golden Section”, we noticed how the attitude of students to their own results is changing. There was a consistency in their analysis, awareness in the movement towards the set goal. With a personal tutor, students learn to set clear and realistic, yet still challenging academic goals. 

The experience of working with a tutor cannot be replaced by interaction with subject teachers or school psychologists. After all, a tutor acts on the basis of a metaposition – he instructs the student in a manner that is not based on any particular subject, but touches upon the issues of teaching in general. The student will be able to independently apply the skills acquired in working with a tutor in other situations, including when studying at a university.

How is tutoring useful for a teacher?

It is obvious that the skills of tutor support cannot be acquired in ordinary pedagogical activities. When the group of teachers of the “Golden Section” formed the first tutoring team of the school, our teachers were faced with the fact that they have to orient themselves internally to two positions: a teacher who is responsible for the results of students, and a tutor who promotes personal growth, but does not control or evaluates his tutor. Therefore, flexibility has become one of the main qualities developed in tutoring. And she, you see, is necessary for any good teacher. In general, we are sure that there are many teachers in the world who tend to adhere to the tutor’s position in their work, but cannot completely switch to it for objective reasons.

By the way, the opposite is also true: having experience as a teacher can play a good role for a tutor. If a tutor understands what work is in the classroom, how the teacher’s attention is distributed between students and what motivation drives the teacher in certain cases, this will help him to objectively assess the situation of a particular tutor.

It would be a mistake to think that, in terms of the necessary competencies, a tutor is something between a teacher and a psychologist. In our opinion, the technologies that are used in tutoring are the closest to the technologies of coaching. 

According to the experience of the Golden Section, the participation of subject teachers in tutoring should be strictly voluntary, based on the teacher’s personal interest, and it is then that it will bring the greatest benefit to the teacher himself. Firstly, it will help to cope with professional burnout – after all, it occurs precisely when there are no changes in teaching for a long time, when it turns into a routine. 

Secondly, tutoring involves constant self-study, collective reflection of one’s work, discussion of various cases – this is, of course, the path to personal development. We can say that within the teacher there is a process of mutual influence of roles: the tutor influences the teacher, the teacher influences the tutor; apparently, in the future our canonical ideas about these roles will depend on this.

Thirdly, the tutor model provides for the teacher’s transition to a proactive, proactive position in relation to the school as a whole, to the events taking place in it, programs, projects, plans and tasks. 

Finally, fourthly, tutoring is always a team work, and participation in a team gives the teacher new motivation, pushes him to development. You need to understand that in the modern world it is practically impossible to do something serious alone, and the system of tutor support at school can become a laboratory for the joint search for new pedagogical ideas.

About the author: Anton Tkachenko, Deputy Director for the Development of the Educational Environment of the Private School “Golden Section”.

We will continue to introduce you to the experience of the “Golden Section” school in the field of tutoring. For those who want to delve deeply into this problem, we recommend purchasing the just published book “Notes of a Tutor. Experience of the school “Golden Section”. 

Alexander Gorodinsky calls himself a pedagogical therapist. Has the right to! He has both pedagogical and psychological education. But the most important thing is great experience. Back in Soviet times, he worked as a teacher, director of schools and boarding schools in Latvia, and then as a teacher in the United States. We continue to publish Alexander’s stories about his students, how https://123helpme.me/hero-essay-example/ he and his colleagues helped them cope with life’s difficulties and grow up. We are sure that you will be able to learn from these stories a lot of useful, but, most importantly, inspiring in order to come back to children tomorrow.

…She killed her father. She was twelve years old when he first raped her. Then it was repeated many times, it was disgusting and unbearably painful. My father did it while drunk, and the last times it happened more and more cruelly and dirty …

The mother knew about these terrible crimes, but did not react to the girl’s complaints. … Just for the sake of that, I hated my daughter more and more. Such a life lasted for about two years. When Tanya was threatened to report to the police, her father said that he would kill her and her younger brother. The mother, having learned about her daughter’s threats, beat her severely. Tanya felt sorry for her younger brother, otherwise she would have thrown herself from the ninth floor, where they lived, or left the house wherever they were looking.

…It all happened unexpectedly. Father came home drunk as usual. Tanya was preparing food for her brother in the kitchen. The filthy man was particularly harsh this time. The girl fought back as best she could, but the rapist was cruel and assertive. Tanya, with the last of her strength, pushed the drunk body away, he slipped, could not resist and fell on the edge of the table, hitting his temple … After falling, he collapsed on the floor, snoring – as usual in a drunk state.

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The children were afraid that their father, waking up, would begin to gloat and decided to drag him to the basement of the house, where he usually spent the night when the mother would not let the drunk into the apartment. Dragged along the emergency ladder by the legs.

The plumber, making another inspection of the communications, found him dead a couple of days later. Before that, no one was interested in him. The medical examination established that the death was caused by a concussion.

Tanya visited several receivers for juvenile delinquents, where she had heard and seen a lot of all sorts of obscene stories, and suffered a lot.

But, it must happen, that at that time there were no empty places in the “children’s home” next to our orphanage. And for a while, before the trial, which by law can only take place when Tanya is fourteen years old, I was asked to “hold” her in our orphanage. This meant that Tanya had to stay with us for more than two months. So we met her.

The first time Tanya came to my office completely “unprepared” for a conversation. The next time it appeared “more or less”. Imposingly entering, she collapsed on a chair and immediately declared on a clean mat:

– Well, director, let’s bring me up. Just shorter. 

At the same time, she looked – any writer writing on criminal topics would envy: her neck was covered with kisses, there was almost no skirt, an indecently deep neckline.

– And you tell me first about your life, and why they are going to put you on trial, and then I’ll begin to educate you, – I said in a benevolent tone.

– Yes, you, director, still won’t believe me, you will believe the policeman and the investigator.

– And you tell the truth, and I will believe you.

– … Yes, … I would castrate you all men without any pity! I would kill you … – unexpectedly for me she screamed.

I looked straight into her eyes and did not say anything, realizing that any word spoken at that moment would only be harmful. She continued to say something dirty and hurtful. I listened and did not answer.

For a long time I felt sincerely sorry for this girl with such a twisted fate. After her anger “poured out” in the form of all her familiar words and expressions, Tanya told me her story.

The girl saw how her story had a strong impact on me. I did not even try to hide my inner shock. Having told, Tanya fell silent. After a long pause, she cautiously asked:

– Do you believe me?

I answered firmly and immediately:

– I believe! Yes I believe you! 

The girl looked into my eyes for a long time, without looking up. It seemed that this gaze would never stop, full of meaningful and deep thoughts, reflected in the blue eyes that were still childish, but saw so much grief.

I really believed her, and nothing could change my mind. But most importantly, I myself believed that Tanya could start a new life for herself.

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